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Learning to let someone go – no matter how much you love them


Learning to let go of something you love is hard, especially for a four-year-old.

Tonight I released No.1’s ‘pet’ caterpillar into the backyard because I didn’t want it to die overnight in a horrible plastic container.

We found it this morning and put in an air-tight container with lettuce. She loved her new caterpillar, and even gave it a name ‘Caterpillar’ – yep that’s what she called her.



So after she and her ample-legged friend Caterpillar had a busy day of show and tell at Kindy, I told her it was time to set Caterpillar free.

Initially she agreed but once the little sucker frantically ran to the safety of the grass, she burst into hysterics, and stayed this way for an hour or so.

She was devastated to let her ‘pet’ go and hoped that she would be safe, mainly she was worried that she wouldn’t come back and that she would get eaten by spiders.

She has a point in regards to being eaten, but I assured her that Caterpillar had nibbled so much lettuce today that she was about to turn into a butterfly so could fly away from any spiders.

I also explained that sometimes if you love something you have to set it free, and that caterpillars love being outside and it’s not nice to keep them in containers.

After this I mentioned that Caterpillar might die if we kept her in a container all night and wouldn’t that be sad!

But all she could think of was how she felt, and although it sounds harsh I really wanted her to realise that it was important to let Caterpillar go, because that’s what she would have wanted, to be with her caterpillar mates cruising around in the grass.

Maybe I was too tough but I really want my girl to try and put herself in other peoples, and caterpillars, shoes!

Perhaps to make her realise that it’s important to sometimes put the interests of others ahead of your own.

Before kissing her at bedtime I told her to look out for a gorgeous butterfly tomorrow because it would probably be Caterpillar – fluttering around with her friends.

I just hope she wakes up happy, knowing she’s done the right thing by Caterpillar – I know I have.


Author: Have A Laugh On Me

I'm a mum to three, write from home and I rarely cook, craft or clean but admire those who do. I try to live by the mantra that there's no point in worrying about something that might not happen! Be warned this is not a fluffy, sweet mummy blog, rather a place where you can cringe, laugh and be shocked at my brutally honest take on my life.

8 thoughts on “Learning to let someone go – no matter how much you love them

  1. Aw, what a beautiful story! You did the right thing, although I confess when our then-3-year-old caught her ‘pet’ caterpillar..who I believe was also named Caterpillar, how very odd… we slyly let it go and popped a moth in there overnight telling her it had transformed. But that disappointed her too because moths aren’t at all beautiful like the butterfly she was waiting for it to become. Guess we unintentionally gave her a life lesson too, everything doesn’t always live up to our expectations.

  2. Such an important life story you shared with her. Sometime we do have to let things go. It’s sad, but so true. 😦

  3. Awwww, poor M! I found a green leaf with a hole in it at work one day so bought it home and told Nick “Look what I found!” He said the hungry caterpillar had been at my work and was so excited, he asked me every day if I had seen him again and could I bring him home! I hope she sees a butterfly today!

  4. Some people are never really comfortable with this, no matter what their age. May your garden be filled with butterflies, and more caterpillars.

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