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It’s taken me a year to get my shit together, but I finally have


I just can’t stop looking at the photo below, right now I’m just shaking my head going – who the hell is that???

In fact the Husband just walked past and said “WOW, I didn’t realise you were that big?”

(I totally adore the fact that he has always loved me for me, not how I look, and has never seen anything but beauty in me.)

This was taken in March 2012 when No.1 had an awesome Princess Party.

This was taken in March 2012 when No.1 had an awesome Princess Party, notice how I am clasping my hands because I feel so embarrassed about myself .

You know I wouldn’t usually put such an unflattering photo of myself up for public scrutiny but I’ve got to a place where I feel I can.

It’s probably because I don’t recognise myself in this photo and I know I will NEVER go back to looking or feeling like this.

I remember feeling so fat, awkward and uncomfortable that day and I don’t think I even looked anyone in the eye – which is so not like me.

I was embarrassed of myself, and that is a feeling that I know I never want to have again.

All day I remember thinking “Oh man this is not really me, I am uncomfortable, so huge, look at my tummy, chins and arms, I wish I wasn’t so fat and horrible.”

This is one thing I know I never want to feel or think again.

I never want to have such bad self esteem.

Thankfully in the past few months, I’ve turned a corner and now look like this.

Notice my genuine smile!

Notice my genuine smile with my much loved and adored third born!

Last year I struggled in all aspects of my life following the arrival of my 3rd child in just 3.5 years.

He was unexpected, and I think I used this as an excuse to eat, drink and do whatever I wanted.

Unfortunately this included going down a path of self destruction, refusing social invites and not being in contact with friends I used to see regularly.

I was embarrassed about how I looked, but I was also not coping with everyday stuff, and I couldn’t deal with how much my life had changed.

However, 2013 is my year and I’m totally owning this sucker.

I am committed to reclaiming my life, my figure and my self esteem.

If you are in this position right now please remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day so be kind to yourself!

Have you been there and done that? Have you climbed out of a hole you thought you never could??

TGIF and I’m linking up with super mum – Miss Cinders for “Things I know”

Things I Know

I’m also flogging my blog with mum to three Grace from With Some Grace for Flog Yo Blog Friday

And flashing with Bree @ Twinkle in the Eye for Flash Blog Friday


Author: Have A Laugh On Me

I'm a mum to three, write from home and I rarely cook, craft or clean but admire those who do. I try to live by the mantra that there's no point in worrying about something that might not happen! Be warned this is not a fluffy, sweet mummy blog, rather a place where you can cringe, laugh and be shocked at my brutally honest take on my life.

50 thoughts on “It’s taken me a year to get my shit together, but I finally have

  1. Hey sexy lady! Wow – you look fit and fantastic.

  2. It really hits home when you see before and after pictures, doesn’t it? You can definitely see the shift in confidence even, just in a picture. In saying that, I never saw you as being “fat”. I think you need to be a bit kinder to the you in that top picture – the you who carried and birthed 3 kids in 3.5 years. That takes a toll on your body and your mind. It would be tough on anyone! You’re doing great Em, keep it up! It is so much nicer to feel great about yourself! And really, you’ve done it quite quickly! It took me 4.5 years post baby to get my act together!

    • You are very sweet for saying so, but you know me, I’m my harshest critic… and having never been bigger than a 10/12 I have found being heavier confronting. But I’m on the upper! Thanks for you awesome support, as usual x

  3. Hi there, you do look great and I understand what you went through. I had five children and the last two were twins. It took a long time to recover and regroup. My post on Bree’s Flash blog is about goal setting which goes well with what you are saying. Blessings to you! Teresa from NanaHood.com

  4. I think your look beautiful in both photos too. Your smile glows in them! But well done on recognizing that you needed to be healthier and on wanting to find “you” again 🙂

    Ai @ Sakura Haruka

  5. Good job! You were beautiful in both pictures, but now you know it; that is what matters. 🙂 xxx

  6. WOW you are looking HOT lady! What a journey. The smile in the second photo shows you FEEL good, even though you look lovely in the first photo too.

    • Sorry but I looked like I was wearing a fat suit in the first one, but I appreciate your kind words Kim. It’s been hard getting big after being a size 10/12, and while it’s not how I look, I never felt great throughout my bigger times! 🙂

  7. Job well done Emily, you look great! I’m so glad to hear that you’re feeling it, that you’re recognising your fabulousness and ready to make 2013 your bitch. HIGH FIVE! xx

  8. You look fabulous – and fabulously happy 🙂

  9. Wow you look fantastic!! Well done you! It’s not easy. I know because I did it and now I’m nearly back where I started again following some health issues. I need to get my mindset right again. Any tips? 😉

    • You know I was lucky my health has been okay, sorry to hear you’ve had some issues. I did have a few ‘women’ issues are 3 kids, but most of weight loss has been through changing my diet. I’m active enough with 3 little ones. And they say it’s 80 per cent diet. Tips? Unless you’re in the right frame of mind there’s no point in trying, I tried about 6 months ago and then just gave up. Kick start your metabolism with a shock! All the best, I LOVE your photos! xx

  10. You look gorgeous! I actually think you are also beautiful in the first photo as well (although it’s never easy to stand out when you’re sitting next to a princess :))

  11. Thank you for posting this – especially today! You look so very happy – congratulations on finding you again 🙂

  12. 2013 is going to be so awesome for you – well done!

  13. It is all about how you feel about yourself . I hope 2013 is your tuning point to be who you want to be healthier and stronger.

    • Yes you are right Trish, and I now feel like I have some control/prospective on life. Thanks for visiting, and you know I always think of you when I am about to moan about something stupid. You are such an amazing woman xx

  14. Wow! What a transformation. You look amazing – totally amazing and you can really see your happiness radiating through in the second picture.
    Popped over from FYBF 🙂

    • Hi Rhian, I have a dear friend called Rhian, I LOVE the name. Thanks for visiting. And yes I feel so much more confident now, slowly getting back to ‘me’ which is hard with 3 young children, but something I have to do for my sanity. 🙂

  15. What an honest touching post. You look amazing and I love that smile. All the very best. I’m going to make 2013 my year too.

    All the best. Much Love. MTA.

  16. This was so inspiring. I hope I have an “after” picture like that a year from now.

  17. You look beautiful. I can see a difference in your smile in the second picture. You look more confident and happy. Well done! Thank you for a great and honest post.

  18. You weren’t “fat” in the first picture but I totally get where you’re coming from. I lost just over 7kgs at the end of last year and I just feel so much better about myself. The tough part now is trying to maintain it. Best of luck with your journey – I honestly feel what you wrote xx

    • Yes I probably wasn’t ‘fat’ by most people’s definitions but I wasn’t happy in my own skin, and that is how I knew things had to change. Well done for losing 7kg, it makes a big difference right?! I’m fairly confident I’ll be able to maintain it, there is NO WAY I want to feel that horrible about myself again 🙂

  19. You look bloody fab!

    And I have absolutely been there – in every way. I’m only now getting back in contact with friends I refused to see and knocked back all invitations from, because I’m only now ok with my size/image.

    I lost over 40kg in 3 years – and I can’t even claim that it was my own efforts. I had a lap band. For me, it was the best thing I’ve ever done – and I’m not saying it’s right for everyone, just for me it was. I’m going in for my tummy tuck next month and I can’t wait. Once I’m recovered, it will be the first time in my entire life that I can consider clothing that doesn’t have an elastic waistband.

    I’m really looking forward to catching up with friends, being out in public (as opposed to previously chanting in my head, continuously while I was out in public – even in shopping centres, “omg omg omg, I’m so huge and disgusting, everyone is looking at me…” – seriously).

    So I totally feel where you were coming from, and I’m so pleased your confidence is back. You look fantastic.

  20. I’m SOOO totally happy for you, and well done for losing that weight, and sorry but I disagree, it was through your own effort, in part, you made the decision, you took action and you have changed your life! I’ve interviewed many people who have had lap band (in my journo days) and it’s changed their lives.
    And I know what you mean when you say you think everyone is looking at you in public. It’s so hard right?! But you’re a bloody legend in my books, let’s make 2013 a year when we don’t ignore friends and invites.
    All the best and I look forward to following and supporting you in 2013! x 🙂

  21. Your honesty is so inspiring!
    I know all about losing the baby weight…
    Rome was NOT built in a day…. No way!
    You’re looking fantastic ;o)

  22. This is a fantastic post. Honest but with a positive bent and a great result. I always live by the mantra that the only person who can make you happy is you and you have certainly taken the bull by the horns here. Congratulations.

    • I appreciate you saying so Carolyn, I totally believe in your mantra, no one else can be responsible for your happiness apart from yourself. And I needed to get into the right head space and am here, most of the time. Have a great day! Emily

  23. Well done. I try and avoid photos.

    I’ve tried almost everything but it’s only since 1 Jan 2013 when I started calorie counting on my tablet that it seems to actually work without drinking shakes or starving myself. I’ve decided to completely divorce Tony Ferguson, I told my gym to cancel my membership and I’m now just counting, doing tae bo videos Mon-Fri without fail and a weight training videos at home all thanks to YouTube. I think for me it’s working best now because I’m not banning any foods, just watching how much I put in my mouth. I’ve lost 3kg since 1 Jan. I have 37kg to go 😦

    I’ve been rejecting invites to parties if I know a mutual friend who is very opiniated is going to be there, because I fear being “silently” analysed.

    • Wishing you all the best for this year!! Calorie counting really is the best way, IMHO, and coupled with exercise it’ll happen, and good on your for losing 3kg already! Just take it 5kg at time instead of seeing it as such a big goal. I hope you start to gain confidence as you lose weight as I’m sure parties would be fun with you at them!!! Good luck, Emily 🙂

  24. Congratulations! You look fantastic. You do look uncomfortable in that first photo – that’s the first thing I noticed, not the ‘tummy, chins and arms’. I’m glad you’re comfortable now and you look totally at ease in that second photo. Your smile is gorgeous, so I’m glad it’s back!

  25. Good on ya, girlfriend for reclaiming your life! You look super duper HAWT! I was crawling in a hole last year but no more!
    Love your work! x
    P.S I’m mum to identical twins…if I had 3, I don’t think I’d be alive. Unless you thought the 3rd child was my husband 🙂 x

    • You know I meant to change that, I just haven’t got around to it! I do know you have identical boys, (although sometimes I feel like my hubby is my 4th child)
      Good luck for crawling out of a hole, I’m joining you, it’s not going to be easy but we’ll get there. Thanks for the link ups! Emily 🙂

  26. Fabulous post hon – so inspiring and good on you ! you are going to own 2013!

  27. You look fabulous and good on you for grabbing 2013 with both hands!

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