Some people come in to your life for a short time not a long time.
They have their reason for being there, a purpose or perhaps something to teach you.
But there some people that come in and out of your life throughout the entirety of it – not staying for long but making a cameo appearance once and a while.
Just recently I went on holiday with two women who I have known since I was 16.
The two women that accept me for who I am – and that’s some sort of crazy at times!!
I spent my last year at high school in a new school, but was made to feel welcome by a group of girls, including the two I recently went on holiday with.
We are now in our mid-30s, have eight kids between us and haven’t all been in the same room for more than 10 years.
But being on holiday with them was like nothing had changed, deep down we were still the same people we were some 20 years ago and accepted each other for that.
For example, they knew I would say inappropriate things, make comments about spunky staff, and never refuse a bubbly.
There was no awkwardness and no feeling of having to make polite shit-shat about stuff.
If it was a spade we would all call it that.
We were all comfortable being around each other – it’s like we were back in high school.
Accept we have kids whinging at us, can’t seem to find our waistlines, and can no longer drink like we used to (although I still gave it a good old fashioned try).
Ain’t that the truth! Image source
What makes me happy is that these two woman accept me for who I am, warts and all, even after all these years.
Maybe it’s a reflection of how friendships can grow over time.
Or perhaps it’s just that they were too polite to tell me my kids were devils in disguise and they never wanted to holiday with us again!! 🙂
Either way I’m thankful to know them and be a part of their lives, even if it’s just every now and then.
Are you happy with having friends come in and out of your life? Or do you get upset when they don’t contact you for ages and expect to you to pick up where you just left off?
I’m linking with Leigh at Six by the Bay for Thankful Thursday!
And Blogs and PR for Talk to Us Thursday
Have a laugh on me 
April 11, 2013 at 7:40 am
How wonderful to have such understanding friends. I like to think there are a few friends I have from the last years of school that would be the same, but sadly we never really get the chance to catch up. Sigh. Oh well.
April 16, 2013 at 9:24 pm
I am truly grateful that our friendships have remained the same, despite some up and downs!
April 11, 2013 at 8:24 am
Starting a new school for the last year would have been tough Em. Your holiday looked rad. I love old friendships. Xx
April 16, 2013 at 9:25 pm
It was a great holiday with little stress because of the families we went with!
April 11, 2013 at 9:28 am
I know exactly how you feel and have blogged about a similar topic for thankful Thursday as well!!! I think those friends that you don’t have to see or talk to all the time but when you do it was as if it was yesterday are the BEST friends!
April 16, 2013 at 9:25 pm
Yep, we sure are lucky, love us warts and all : )
April 11, 2013 at 9:34 am
I have a couple of friends like this too – and again, I met them at high school (Year 11 to be exact) when we were in all the same classes except English. We live all over SE Qld these days but every March for about the last 10 years we try to have an annual girlie weekend – and we have a blast!
April 16, 2013 at 9:26 pm
I hadn’t seen one of these girls in more than 8 years and it was like nothing had changed! Love friendships like that 🙂
April 11, 2013 at 11:44 am
I am fine with friends in and out of life.. we are all on different paths and all have so many things going on.. but as long as when we do catchup it was like we saw eachother yesterday, I think its fine!!
TUST visiting 🙂
April 16, 2013 at 9:27 pm
I agree, we all have our own paths but it’s nice to have some constants along the way! Em x
April 11, 2013 at 12:28 pm
This is so cool. What a great opportunity for you guys!
Most of my cousins are overseas and I am not close with the ones here. I have a few very good and old friends and then I have a good network of other friends. I see my other friends more often than my besties because of where we live.
But that’s the best thing about besties, they’re there, no matter what.
I never refuse a drink either, btw… X
April 16, 2013 at 9:28 pm
Besties are besties, full stop. And as we grow and move to new places we make other friends, and it’s not as though we forget others, we just evolve!
April 11, 2013 at 12:30 pm
I’m pretty easygoing with friends coming and going – one friend in particular, we have year long gaps in between contact and it doesn’t worry either of us, that’s just how it is! Di @ Max The Unicorn visiting from TUST Blogs & PR 🙂
April 16, 2013 at 9:28 pm
I agree with you Di, I LOVE having people that come and go easily, without stress, drama, we know what when we catch up it’s like little time has passed! Em x
April 11, 2013 at 12:49 pm
Amazing, my post today is almost the same story, long distance friend who I managed to catch up with after 5 years of not seeing each other. Love it! xxxx Nikki@Wonderfully Women
April 16, 2013 at 9:29 pm
I did have a chuckle when I read yours – we wrote very similar posts! Great minds for shiz 🙂
April 11, 2013 at 1:57 pm
you are so lucky to still have contact with those friends!!
I still have some contact with probably 1 or 2 girls from school and thats that.
And in all honesty it’s probably best like that anyway.. most went on to have some flash lives, jobs and the likes.
And I don’t have many – if any – friends that I can do as I please with or be me…
Yes I lead a sad & lonely life .. just my kids, husband, family and myself.
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April 16, 2013 at 9:30 pm
I have to say I don’t think of you as sad, lonely, you seem to have a lovely network of friends and family – and I’m sure you agree it’s about quality not quantity! Em x
April 11, 2013 at 2:20 pm
I am definitely happy to have friends come and go from my life. If they are good people then they are worthy. What shits me is when you put time and effort in to someone and they do nothing to give anything back to you and its all one sided. Those are the sorts of friendships I let go and don’t let back in my life!
April 16, 2013 at 9:31 pm
I’ve had a few experiences like this recently, I just wish I hadn’t given so much of myself, but hey – you live and learn right Ky?! Em (ps I want a bump shot!!) xxx
April 11, 2013 at 2:29 pm
That is something that I miss having moved countries later in life – I have no friends from old 😦
It’s great that you can pick up where you left off – I love friends like that.
Have a great week !
Me
April 16, 2013 at 9:32 pm
Thanks L – I bet it must be hard – but sounds like you have a few quality friends and sometimes that’s all we need! Em xx
April 11, 2013 at 3:50 pm
I think the friends that always know your there even when you can’t get to them are the best. My best friends are like that. Glad you had a great time Em. Xx
April 16, 2013 at 9:33 pm
I totally agree! It was just FAB – Em 🙂
April 11, 2013 at 4:00 pm
I think that is awesome em! I see my friends from high school when I go back to NYC and we just pick up and move forward with ease. Deb xx
April 16, 2013 at 9:33 pm
And that to me is what true friendship is all about! – I can’t wait to go back to NYC – just for visit! x
April 11, 2013 at 4:57 pm
It is wonderful to have friends who you can be completely yourself with and they still love you! Nothing like it! xo
April 16, 2013 at 9:34 pm
You know what Mins, I thought most of my friends we like that, but recently I’ve realised I was wrong 🙂 x
April 11, 2013 at 8:20 pm
I love those people in your life that you can just be totally yourself around. I have some that I may not see for a couple of years and we still pick up where we left off. xx
April 16, 2013 at 9:34 pm
I’m so glad that you have those people also Lisa, you deserve ’em! Em xx
April 11, 2013 at 9:25 pm
Thats so awesome Em. Those friends are the best kind. It makes me miss my special friends back in England. (thank bleep for modern technology hey!)
April 16, 2013 at 9:35 pm
I bet it must be hard, being so far away. However, we are lucky to have modern technology 🙂 xx
April 11, 2013 at 9:34 pm
I have a handful of great friends like that. There are a couple of girls who I have known for 25 years and its always so easy when we do get together. I’ve known my bestie since I was 3 years old (so that’s 39 years – Gezuz). I may only see her once a year but its still all good. I’m loving making new friends through school, kindy and the bloggy world too.
April 16, 2013 at 9:36 pm
I have to say muma – I would LOVE to meet you IRL – imagine the shits and giggles we’d have. I’m with you though, I don’t see my old friends much and have new ones, including many bloggy ones that I think are often more honest than some I kick around with in person! xx
April 12, 2013 at 6:45 am
You never refuse a bubbly? I knew we were going to be friends! 🙂
April 16, 2013 at 9:37 pm
But of course you good looker you 😉 x
April 12, 2013 at 7:45 am
i think it’s the ones you can be out of contact with for ages and just pick up where you left off that are the best. Unfortunately not all friendships are like that and some people get bees in their bonnets over every little thing and make it just too hard to get along with them, let alone like them! glad you had a fun time away with great friends. it lifts the spirit and feeds the soul!
April 16, 2013 at 9:37 pm
It was so easy and fun – just like when you and Ness and our fam dams go away 🙂
April 12, 2013 at 8:35 am
I love how you say they know you make inappropriate comments… I have had friends who I thought were good friends react in a funny manner when I have said something ‘inappropriate’ because I was having a bad day or something. Then you realise they are not such good friends after all 😦 I also LOVE a glass of bubbly! Actually just bought a nice bottle of Bolly yesterday with a gift card my sister gave me for my birthday! Splurge! xx #TUST
April 16, 2013 at 9:38 pm
YAY, I hope the Bolle when down well – TOTALLY deserved I’m sure! And yes if people can’t love us warts, inappropriate, stressed comments and all then shit, I can’t understand it! Em x
April 12, 2013 at 8:41 am
I don’t have a lot of old friends that’s rarely catch up with tbh. A few from school and that’s lays nice and normal, but that’s it. I honestly don’t mind friendships slowing down and people moving on, as you make too, for new ones. I think that’s part of life, and if its mutual, that’s ok.
April 16, 2013 at 9:39 pm
I agree, I have a few friends from old, new and in between, but I think as long as all friendships are built on honesty and trust then that’s all that matters! Em xxx
April 12, 2013 at 8:59 am
I love friends that I still have friends from the past that are supportive and loving, even if we have not met up for a long time. I know I can still count on them even if we meet up just once a few months. Ive a strong group of gal pals from high school too and even though we’ve all aged, got our jobs and even formed families, whenever we get together, it feels as if nothing much has changed in our friendship 🙂
Ai @ Sakura Haruka
April 16, 2013 at 9:40 pm
I’m glad that you have that Ai, it’s a very nice feeling right?! Especially when they aren’t judging x
April 12, 2013 at 9:16 am
The other day I logged into my personal fb account and a friend has posted a photo of about six of us in a pub in Galway, Ireland having a ball – we were all about 25 … I’m now 46. Three of those people are friends for life. I don’t see them much but when I had a crisis last year they almost booked fix on a plane with their kids to come Dow. I treasure those friendships – we are so lucky to have them.
April 16, 2013 at 9:41 pm
I haven’t spoken to my bestie – friends since we were 12 – in months, but I know what if I had a crisis she would be here tomorrow. Those are true friends xxx
April 12, 2013 at 12:57 pm
Hello, I left lots of lovely friends behind in the UK and one is coming to Scotland from her home in France to see me next week. her mum lives near mum, so handy. I’d LOVE o visit her in France but… we met in a pub when we were 17 and see each other sporadically BUT it’s always fantastic when we get together. Can’t wait!
April 16, 2013 at 9:41 pm
It’s amazing to be able to pick up where you left off, a sign of a true friend Seana!! Em xx
April 12, 2013 at 3:48 pm
How wonderful that you got to holiday with these ole Gal Pals.
So happy that you all had a fabulous time. Friends like these no matter how often you get to see them are worth holding onto x
April 16, 2013 at 9:42 pm
I totally agree, they are just easy going, low maintenance girls who I love dearly 🙂
April 12, 2013 at 3:55 pm
I am happy with a certain number of friends. Like you they accept me for who I am – which is disturbingly a little too similar to you 🙂
The ones that irk me are the ones that turn up every now and then (usually an email or Xmas card) to say how they miss you and want to catch up. This is all empty bullshit promises. You say name a date, they send you another email or Xmas card a year later with the same crap they pulled previously.
Thank God I have friends similar to yours that I can rely on.
Becc @ Take Charge Now
April 16, 2013 at 9:43 pm
I also have a few ‘friends’ who say the right things but don’t really mean it, but then again maybe it’s for the best right? xx
April 12, 2013 at 9:18 pm
The best kinds of friends love you warts and all.
April 16, 2013 at 9:43 pm
Yep – I couldn’t agree more Trish 🙂 x
April 12, 2013 at 9:26 pm
I have some absolutely wonderful old friends i see only occasionally and it is still like old times. I also have some old friends who are still my regular social circle and my rocks. I also have wonderful new friends I meet all the time. There is room for all!!! xxx
April 16, 2013 at 9:44 pm
You are right, a blend of old and new are great – especially if you are all in the same place. I just LOVE that I have friends all over the world that I can ring and know they are there if I REALLY need it! Em x
April 14, 2013 at 11:53 am
Hi Em – I found you in a roundabout way that I’m discovering is the world of blogging connections. I’m also on the Gold Coast (Benowa) and our wedding anniversaries are one day apart (I saw this on your comment on MinsMash when you were discussing the blogging event in Brisbane). I won’t be able to make that event as Mum and Dad are coming down so we can have a night away for our anniversary. It would be nice to connect at some stage though. Did you know that the Problogger conference is being held on the Gold Coast in September…cheers..kathy
April 16, 2013 at 9:45 pm
Kathy, I think I will be giving the April event a miss, as the Husband and I will probably celebrate our anniversary like you guys! I am aware of the September event, but missed out on early bird tickets so hoping more come out soon?! Look forward to meeting you! Em, x
April 15, 2013 at 12:04 pm
Hi Em. I think good friends are hard to find. I have a friend I have known since we were 10 years old. The rest of my friends I have gathered via work or university. A lovely post
April 16, 2013 at 9:46 pm
I have my bestie in NZ since we were 12 at boarding school, our lives are so different but our love for each other keeps us close! xx
April 15, 2013 at 1:20 pm
They are the best kind of friends to have. And in my case, anyone who would be seen with me during my early 1990’s permed fringe poodle impersonation phase, is a lifelong buddy able to cope with any crap I may pull in the future. Love me some unconditional friendship.
April 16, 2013 at 9:47 pm
Ha ha that is V funny! Gotta love those who love our fashion f(*-ups!! Em xx
April 15, 2013 at 7:21 pm
You are most certainly fabulous and that is the reason you have fabulous friends who accept you for who you are. Life comes with lot’s of changes but I honestly think true friends will never change.
I feel exactly the same about my girlfriends x
Lovely post x Sarah x
April 16, 2013 at 9:49 pm
Thanks Sarah (my older sister’s name also) for saying I’m fabulous, but I can’t say I agree, all I can say is that I’m honest, reliable and would do anything for anyone who I feel deserves it in my heart of hearts! Em xx
April 15, 2013 at 9:24 pm
I have some wonderful friends some date back 32 years!!!!! I love weekends away with them. Its just the BEST fun ever! Big hugs xxxx
April 16, 2013 at 9:50 pm
YAY weekends away with besties, I hope you get to do that again soon Leigh, the universe knows you deserve it!!! 🙂 Em xx
April 18, 2013 at 8:37 am
These types of friendship are the best. Most of the good friends I still have now are girls I met in high school. Even with the distance I still feel a deep connection with them.